Cooking Is Your Friend, Not the Enemy

I hate it when women brag about how they can't cook. Everyone needs to eat, and unless you can afford to go out every night, you need to do some form of cooking. Cooking is not that hard. Do not be afraid of the kitchen. You need to eat and guys like a woman who can cook. Just because you know how to cook doesn't mean you'll automatically end up barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen.

I had to teach myself how to cook. Growing up, my mom always cooked and she hated it. The only time my dad went into the kitchen was to get a snack. My mom never taught me how to cook. I think she was afraid to let me near the stove. When I left home, I barely knew how to boil water.

All that changed when I met my husband. I am extremely lucky that he likes to cook so I got off easy for many years. But then he took a night class and I had to cook. What I discovered is that cooking wasn't that hard and over time I have come to actually enjoy it.

I taught myself to cook with the help of TV shows, cookbooks, and recipes online. I'm not the greatest cook but I can put together a meal and not make you sick.

The more you cook, the more confident you will be. So do not be afraid of the kitchen. Knowing how to cook is a great asset and it's not a woman-only thing anymore. You'll save money and eat healthier, and anyone you cook for will thank you for it too. 

Be Open

Open your mind,
Open your eyes,
Open your heart,
Open your arms,
Open your lungs,
Open to opportunities,
Open to new possibilities,
Be open to life.

Tired of Caring

Tired of caring,
tired of trying,
tired of chasing people down,
Why should I care,
when you obviously don't,
I give up,
I give in,
I'm letting go,
I'm not wasting my energy or time,
gotta move forward,
and ease my mind.

How to Build Self-Confidence

• Dress well
• Walk fast
• Good posture
• Compliment others
• Sit in the front row
• Speak up
• Work out
• Contribute something in every situation
• Groom yourself
• Think positive
• Kill negative thoughts
• Act positive
• Get to know yourself
• Be kind and generous
• Be prepared
• Speak slowly
• Know your principles
• Focus on solutions, not problems
• Smile :)
• Volunteer
• Be grateful
• No one is perfect
• Make eye contact
• Change your inner voice
• Find the next step
• Reframe the situation from negative to positive
• Meditate
• Forget others standards
• Ask questions
• Say please and thank you
• Give of yourself
• Help others

Wardrobe Essentials

Coats-

Trench Coat
Vest
Leather Jacket

Sweaters-

Cardigan
V neck
Crew neck
Cashmere
Turtleneck

Jewelry-

Watch
Statement Necklace
Cocktail Ring
Cuff
Gold Hoops
Diamonds-necklace/earrings
Pearls-necklace/earrings
Gold/Silver Jewelry
Inexpensive Jewelry

Shoes-

Flats
Boots
Red/Nude/Leopard Print Shoes
Sneakers
Pumps

Clothes-

Black Dress
Blazer
Jeans
Pencil Skirt
Dress Pants
Wrap Dress/Top
T-Shirts
Tank Top

Accessories-

Black Tights
Scarfs
Belts-skinny/wide
Sunglasses
Evening/Day Purse

Colors/Prints-

Black
White
Navy
Pinstripe
Red
Neutrals
Leopard Print
Snakeskin

Tired of Trying

Tired of trying,
trying to be someone else.
I'm nice and kind,
not evil and mean.
I'm a human being,
and I matter.
I have feelings and opinions,
I'm not just a shell.
I matter too,
just as much as you.

Letting Go

Standing on the edge
watching my dream slip away
there's nothing I can do
there's nothing I can say
if I let go, will it come back
or will all I have left is pain
don't pray for me or wish me well
it doesn't work
it doesn't help
you don't know my pain
just let me be
let me cry
it's time to say goodbye