Infertility is a medical issue not a mental one. If you suffer from infertility you see doctors and have tests. It is not something you can wish or pray away. Taking a vacation won't help nor will getting a job to take your mind off things. Believe me, if it was that easy I would have done it but it's not.
If I had cancer you wouldn't tell me to relax or stop thinking about it too much. You would offer support and ask me how I'm doing. For some reason infertility is treated differently. People say you're trying too hard, just relax and it will happen. How do you know? Are you a doctor? Just because you have a child doesn't mean you're an expert on the reproductive system.
If I had a dime for every vitamin and herb I was suppose to take to get pregnant, I could open my own health food store. If these products actually worked there wouldn't be fertility drugs or clinics or specialists. If you don't have enough eggs or sperm to get the job done, no vitamin will help you. There is no magic pill.
I also hate it when people suggest adoption (usually these people have biological children of their own). As if adoption is so easy. Please point me in the direction of the nearest baby store. I want a child of my own like you. Don't suggest adoption unless you've tried it. It's very expensive and could take years. It's insulting. I want what you have. Please don't tell me to give up and go buy a baby. It's not a car or a house. You just can't buy children (legally).
I have a medical condition. I see doctors, take tests and use drugs. I want to be a parent and have a child that is a part of me and my husband. I want to experience pregnancy and birth. I want to have a family. Keep your opinions to yourself. Don't tell me what to do or feel unless you've been there. I need support and understanding, not critique and judgements. I already cry and pray for a miracle. I'm in pain and I feel broken and left behind. Please take my issue seriously and respect that it is a medical problem, not a mental one.
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